Dang…it has been quite a while since I’ve posted anything. I have made notes about posts I wanted to make, and had ideas in my head, but I guess none of them resonated with me strongly enough to actually put fingers to keyboard.
With that being said, I want to start a new “series” (we will see if it turns into that or just a one time deal) on some thoughts I have while “Thinking and Driving”.
I do my deepest thinking and have my best ideas in 3 arenas of life…
- In the Gym
- In the Shower
- In the Car
Many of you can surely relate. There is something about the mindlessness of the task at hand that allows you to dive deeply into your inner thoughts and create some of the greatest, and craziest/silly/flat out ridiculous, ideas one can think of.
With this blog post I want to focus on something that has been weighing heavy on my mind lately, and that is the need we have for validation from others. I am guilty of this, and if you read this and think, “well this is kind of hypocritical of her”, I agree 100%. I am writing this for me as much as I am writing it for anyone who takes the time to read it.
Not only do we need constant validation of our lives, but we need it NOW! Social media platforms have enabled this mindset and ADDICTION so much over the past 5 or so years, that a like (or someone NOT liking your post), retweet, comment, etc. can make or break someone’s mood in an instant.
Why do we seek this attention from others on something that ultimately is a rosy picture of what our life really is? For the most part, we only post the glorious, awe inducing, praise worthy parts of our lives. So we are presenting this idea that our life is one way, and hoping for others to give us validation that that is truly what our life is like, rather than being realistic and seeking ways to make our lives better and more fulfilling.
As I am about to go on vacation to Europe, I am trying to find ways to post about my trip for family and friends to see, but to do so in a way that does not paint a picture that in reality does not exist. I want to inform rather than induce jealousy. I want to post for reasons other than how many likes and comments can I get on this.
What’s more important? Impressing people on social media, or living a life full of things, people, and experiences that make such an impression on your life that you don’t feel the need to present or post.
DON’T SEEK OUT THINGS THAT YOU THINK WILL IMPRESS OTHERS. SEEK OUT THINGS THAT WILL IMPRESS YOU.
Post pics of your experiences. I love seeing them. But don’t do things simply for the chance to take and post a picture of it. Soak it in. Live in the moment. Snap a pic. Heck, snap a pic that you’re NOT in. Make people feel as if they are seeing it themselves, not just seeing you and your outfit.
Deep >>> Superficial
So to end this rant…
Why do you do what you do? Why do you take that risk, go on that trip, step out of your comfort zone? For applause, or because you know your time here on earth is limited and the opportunity isn’t going to be there forever.
Challenge Yourself: Look a mess in the next pic you post 😉